Impact for Love
If you could control the impact you have on other people, what impact would you want to have? How do you want people to feel after they interact with you?
I had the most amazing moment last night with one of my brilliant coaching clients. We wrapped up her coaching series a couple months ago, so it was time to touch base. I had a few questions to ask her, the first being, “What lesson from our coaching together really integrated and is making the biggest impact in your life today?”
She said – and I was BLOWN AWAY – “I have realized I don’t need to punish myself for falling short of my arbitrary goals. When I’m exhausted, I listen to myself and say, there must be a reason I need rest right now. I have self-forgiveness instead of self-punishing.”
Self-love is her magic wand against the guilt, shame and frustration that kept her locked out from achieving what she deeply desired for years
It gets better…
She says “As a result, I actually have more productivity. I don’t feel like shit when I do sit down to work, I’m not beating myself up. I did what I needed to take care of myself, so I show up to my work ready for the next thing.”
I am so inspired by the women I work with, they are taking the leap forward to break through old blocks, find out what they really want, and create that future. We talked for 40 minutes so we covered a lot, and I was blown away from top to bottom. When we met earlier this year, this woman was struggling to find her voice. She couldn’t write even a few paragraphs a day because her doubt got in the way. Now has her entire message outlined for a book and is actively working on writing it every day.
I look at what she said and here’s how I define it: She now has a healthier relationship with herself, one based on self-love. Self-love is her magic wand against the guilt, shame and frustration that kept her locked out from achieving what she deeply desired for years. She is on her path!
If I could control how people felt after every interaction with me, it would be exactly that. I want people to walk away having a better relationship with themselves, to be experiencing self-love (whether they realize it or not). So the fact that THAT was my client’s biggest takeaway has me leaping over the moon.
